Failure is the new success.
Everywhere you look today people are failing. And they’re not hiding the fact that they’re failing, they are flaunting it. Failure is cool. Failure is hip. Failure is trendy. Failing is what the “in-crowd” does.
And people don’t just fail once these days. They fail over, and over, and over again. It builds character. Nowadays if you fail just once, you’re a loser.
There was a time when failure had a stigma attached to it. You wanted to avoid it. It wasn’t something you talked about at parties. Now you list it on your resume’ along with your participation trophies and perfect attendance records.
When did failure get so acceptable and mainstream?
I agree that failure is not something that you should be afraid of. Nobody is successful at everything, and certainly not the first time, or first few times you attempt something new. Taking risk is part of life, and failure ultimately goes hand in hand with risk.
And helping others to recognize failure as a tool for self-improvement is a noble endeavor.
But somewhere along the line, a large percentage of the population has missed that message and learned the wrong things about failure.
Much of the populace doesn’t understand that failure is not meant to be a perpetual state. Failure is part of the process that gets you to success. It’s the journey; but a pointless one if there is not a final destination of achievement.
Every day I come across people in my life that fail to recognize the irony of reading a “self-help” book about how it’s okay to continually fail, written by a bestselling author or multi-millionaire businessman.
Too many people don’t realize that failure is not meant to be glamorous. The lovable loser is only loveable on TV and in the movies, not when he is thirty-five and lives next door to you in his parents converted garage.
Millions of people watch shows like Jersey Shore and 16 and Pregnant and see them as vindicating drunken narcissistic lifestyles and teen pregnancy instead of warning against them.
For too many people, failure is not a means to an end; it’s the end in itself.
I’ve failed in my life. Many times. I will fail again in the future. It’s a necessary evil. But I never like it. I never accept it. I don’t make a friend of it. And I sure as hell don’t dress it up and put it on display with some sort of retarded pride.
You have to fight failure. It has to keep you up at night. It has to be your mortal enemy. Your sworn adversary. You should hate failure!
A healthy dose of “fear of failure” can be a good thing. It shouldn’t be your only motivator in life, but it should be one of them. One that drives you to rise up and achieve bigger and better things for yourself.
And believe me; you will much more prefer taking pride in your successful accomplishments than you ever will in even your best failures.